I did experience this with a few of friends many moons ago - total oblivious to the importance of it. Now, my brain&body are self sufficient to identify and react to this type of toxicity.
I relate more with this type of toxicity in the workplaces and would love to know more if this followed you into work too.
You are right! Our confidence means some people see as threats/disruptor to their own little universe.
People said to me more than once: "you sound like you have all your ducks in a row and that's what triggers the erratic behaviour."
Is just self-love, confidence and authenticity which I worked hard to build and even harder to maintain.
Btw, I can't even remember if I own ducks anymore 😅
One thing I’ve learned from forcing myself into posting this while it was so uncomfortable is that we all have a similar story. That felt like a strange relief when I still felt ashamed by the whole situation.
Funnily enough, I met that person at work lol. Had to quiet her bullshit and the company all together.
Your self love radiates, never let anyone make you feel like it’s too much to handle 🧡
Thank you for opening up about this Maïssane 🥺 It's not easy to be vulnerable and share something deeply personal, but you've taken this brave step to share an important message 🙏🏻💖
I've experienced navigating a toxic friendship too and it was really painful for me to step aside and set boundaries for my well-being 😢 I knew that I needed it and it was the right thing to do, but it still made me feel bad and guilty at that time. Our friendship never remained the same after that, but I'm now much more at peace with myself and have healed from it. I hope you find that inner peace and healing too 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your kind words Alea 🥹🧡 this means a lot. I guess it’s all part of growing up! The lessons of yesterday are today’s valuable knowledge!
That's an important reminder and made me reflect on my life as well. You are right when you say that practicing self-love often makes other people aware of what they're not doing to improve their life.
I used to tell my friends every time I gained 100 subscribers on Substack, but then I stopped because you need to be careful how much you share with other people.
That’s so true Stefano. I totally relate to what you are sharing.
A very close friend of mine used to tell me that it can be selfish to force others to see the world through our eyes, that they simply may not be ready to. Sharing our objectives can sometimes be violent for people feeling stuck on their own journey.
The approach I am going for now is to navigate solo on my projects and aspirations.
I think that also protects us from jealousy and feeling misunderstood.
well said, just go solo and do your own thing. Don’t tell people in your life too much about what you’re doing, some will get jealous and start to envy you.
Wonderful piece, Maïssane! I completely relate to your experience. A few years ago, I was caught in a friendship I believed to be sincere, only to realize how toxic it truly was when an opportunity came my way. Taking distance , helped by a move , brought me the peace I needed. Now, I make it a point to recognize the red flags early on...
Thank you so much Emanuela ✨ Your encouragements made it possible for me to write this down, which wasn’t easy.
Friendships are sometimes so tough to navigate, but I’m grateful for all the connections I made after this difficult chapter.
I’m convinced great people always find each other 😊
Thank you for showing up so authentic 👏
I did experience this with a few of friends many moons ago - total oblivious to the importance of it. Now, my brain&body are self sufficient to identify and react to this type of toxicity.
I relate more with this type of toxicity in the workplaces and would love to know more if this followed you into work too.
You are right! Our confidence means some people see as threats/disruptor to their own little universe.
People said to me more than once: "you sound like you have all your ducks in a row and that's what triggers the erratic behaviour."
Is just self-love, confidence and authenticity which I worked hard to build and even harder to maintain.
Btw, I can't even remember if I own ducks anymore 😅
Thank you so much for your nice comment Maria ✨
One thing I’ve learned from forcing myself into posting this while it was so uncomfortable is that we all have a similar story. That felt like a strange relief when I still felt ashamed by the whole situation.
Funnily enough, I met that person at work lol. Had to quiet her bullshit and the company all together.
Your self love radiates, never let anyone make you feel like it’s too much to handle 🧡
Thank you for opening up about this Maïssane 🥺 It's not easy to be vulnerable and share something deeply personal, but you've taken this brave step to share an important message 🙏🏻💖
I've experienced navigating a toxic friendship too and it was really painful for me to step aside and set boundaries for my well-being 😢 I knew that I needed it and it was the right thing to do, but it still made me feel bad and guilty at that time. Our friendship never remained the same after that, but I'm now much more at peace with myself and have healed from it. I hope you find that inner peace and healing too 🙏🏻
Keep shining, Maïssane! You're doing amazing 🤍
Thank you so much for your kind words Alea 🥹🧡 this means a lot. I guess it’s all part of growing up! The lessons of yesterday are today’s valuable knowledge!
That's an important reminder and made me reflect on my life as well. You are right when you say that practicing self-love often makes other people aware of what they're not doing to improve their life.
I used to tell my friends every time I gained 100 subscribers on Substack, but then I stopped because you need to be careful how much you share with other people.
Even friends will become jealous.
That’s so true Stefano. I totally relate to what you are sharing.
A very close friend of mine used to tell me that it can be selfish to force others to see the world through our eyes, that they simply may not be ready to. Sharing our objectives can sometimes be violent for people feeling stuck on their own journey.
The approach I am going for now is to navigate solo on my projects and aspirations.
I think that also protects us from jealousy and feeling misunderstood.
Exactly.
well said, just go solo and do your own thing. Don’t tell people in your life too much about what you’re doing, some will get jealous and start to envy you.
Wonderful piece, Maïssane! I completely relate to your experience. A few years ago, I was caught in a friendship I believed to be sincere, only to realize how toxic it truly was when an opportunity came my way. Taking distance , helped by a move , brought me the peace I needed. Now, I make it a point to recognize the red flags early on...